One big way we mess our kids up

“We’ve spent lifetimes thinking about our problems, but so little time actually shining the light of awareness on what is actually happening.” – Joey Lott

In my opinion and from what I have learned, one big way people can and do mess their kids up, is by not being aware of and integrating their own shadow parts of themselves (unwanted & rejected parts of self) and then they can project whatever issue they might have, big or small onto their kids, and the kids grow up and do the same to their kids and it perpetuates.

All is not lost though, because at any time, anyone can do this inner work, although hard, it’s possible. And we can undo our conditioning and integrate our shadow parts, not only for the wellbeing of kids, but for the wellbeing of ourselves and every single person we have relationships with/interact with.

We don’t have to do anything, we can do what we want, but if people are suffering, I believe this is important work.

Carl Jung’s, Jordan Peterson’s and Joey Lott’s work on this is a God send.

For anyone suffering with problems for a long time that they have never found a way to fix them; problems like depression, anxiety, eating disorders, addiction, obsessions etc. Joey Lott has an incredible online course that I can personally vouch for, that you can check out here. (Hopefully it’s still open to join, if not you can sign up to his email and receive updates of when it will next be open) Obviously this isn’t the only way, and there’s lots of good help out there. But this is one that I have found to be very effective and really get to the root of my problems.

Psychopathy: Instead of treating the symptom, what about the root cause?

 

In this video they’re talking about future possibilities of putting microchips in psychopaths’ heads, to change their brains and make them ‘normal.’ I’m not sure if it’s very ethical and it gives the people putting the chip in; way too much power, playing God a bit. Very similar to the film Clockwork Orange. Some psychiatrists believe they can ‘fix’ psychopaths through things like therapy. And some believe they just need to be locked up forever as they will never change. But either way the damage is done, and lots of people have been murdered in the meantime. So instead of treating the symptom and talking about cures, what about attacking the root cause, and preventing the creation of one in the first place?

In this Channel 4 documentary (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pROu77TvZzA) they discuss the factors that create psychopaths, 1: Genetics (nature, personality, i.e. aggression), 2: Brain pattern (nature, the way they’re wired), 3: Early abuse (nurture, physical, emotional or sexual abuse) and you need to have all 3 in order to become a serial killer type psychopath. If you only have the first two, you will likely become a ruthless business man, surgeon, lawyer or some other high powered exhilarating job.

“It’s biology plus environment which raise the odds of an individual becoming a violent criminal offender.”

Dr. Bob Johnson believes that the 3rd factor is the key to unlocking their condition. So if every single psychopath has a history of some sort of trauma, then what ways can that be stopped from the beginning? I would guess depending on genes and personality, going through a trauma would result in different psychological conditions and disorders for different people. For some Psychopathy, others schizophrenia, drug addiction, PTSD or depression? With traumas like:

– War

– Sexual abuse

– Violent abuse

– Psychological abuse

– Death of loved ones

– Bullying

– ?

Do we need to get our facts right and educate everyone, especially parents about psychopaths and their behaviors? Or spot potential abuse in children, and keep an eye on them even when they’ve left school? Is that too invasive? Apparently you can’t give children therapy because their brains aren’t formed yet and they might change, so it’s too early to start diagnosing conditions.

What if the main cause of psychopaths becoming killers is because of abusive parents? A look back even further might reveal their parents to have also had a traumatic experience. Where do these things start and how do we fix it? The kind of parents that are capable of sexually abusing their child, probably won’t care about education, maybe they aren’t educated themselves. So instead, can we teach children how to be good parents or what good parenting is? So they grow up becoming better parents and spot signs of bad parenting? Who’s to say what’s good parenting? Psychiatrists setting curriculums?

If all parents brought their children up well, the world would be very different wouldn’t it? It’s not just early traumas causing massive mental health issues in people but smaller issues too that can still dramatically affect people’s lives. Like an inferiority complex, anxiety disorders or low self esteem. I think education is a good place to start in helping these problems before they manifest.

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