Less is more, more is a trap.

Many people seem to like a vast choice of everything. For example, things to wear. I can relate to the dopamine hit of new things. Which is fine, but it comes at a cost; the cost of time, energy and money to name a few.

I’m finding that less is more. I used to think the more the better. I used to think more clothes, more choice, more information means more value. But I don’t think that is necessarily true!

For me now, more choice and more information means less value, because it’s too much to process and the real value drowns in the too much. So when you have less clothes, less information, less photographs; you treasure the one’s you have more, they are your absolute favourites and you can actually use them, see them, because they aren’t an overwhelming amount.

I’m very grateful to have the freedom of choice, but I find so much value in being deliberate and intentional with my choices and priorities.

I feel more lightness, more peace, less stress and less overwhelm because of adopting the minimalist philosophy.

For a tiny example, I now have 1 belt and 2 pairs of trainers, which are my favourites. (One’s I actually wear and feel good wearing).

Since being more intentional about all my possessions, and looking at whether I use them or enjoy them or not, I don’t have to fret about what to wear as much, or waste time deciding, or spend money on new things I don’t need or love.

I don’t care if I wear the same things often, that’s really not what matters most to me in life. Less time deciding, more time experiencing. Maybe that’s just me.

The oppressed, the underdogs, the misfits

A side effect or a price that we pay for having this self awareness, a higher consciousness is we have the ability to judge, bully and oppress others of our kind. I really think it’s a shame and small minded to do so. You would never see a tiger oppress a dog because it was different, it wouldn’t care at all if the dog was gay, female, mentally ill or a drug addict.

But us humans can be really mean, when really everyone wants to just belong, be accepted, appreciated and loved right?

Imagine if we could extend our empathy not just to our family and friends but to all humans and animals? It’s hard to live on this planet as it is. Empowering instead of judging…

“People can only live a happy life if they can live the way their brain has been programmed, and the state should accept that, and guarantee them the freedom to live that way so long as they don’t harm others. You should have the freedom to live as a homosexual, a transsexual, a heterosexual, and be protected by the state.” – Dick Swaab

We should stop obsessing so much about the differences and look at the similarities between us all.

Where oppression needs more empathy, compassion and understanding:

– Sexuality (gays, lesbians, bi-sexuals, a-sexuals, pan-sexuals…)
– Gender (male, female, transexual, transvestite, androgynus…)
– Race
– Drug addiction/abuse – legal and illegal
– Elderly
– Disabled
– Mentally ill
– Introverts
– Religious and non-religious types
– People who don’t belong in the justice system
– Honest people on the dole or benefits

– Did I miss any?

Anything that doesn’t fit the majority opinion of the population in at least western societies, gets cast out as weird and wrong and the rest are selected to be celebrated and pushed onto others. Is that more about them than us? – Just look at the way some straight people see gay people getting married as weakening the meaning of traditional marriage etc. Their identities and world views are tied to these outside things so tightly that for someone to come along and be different to that, makes them feel more insecure and challenges their identity.

Philip Seymour Hoffman has just died from a drug overdose, along with many other celebrities and people no one knows. Anyone can become addicted to drugs, you just have to have them available and have an addictive personality, or have lots of pain and suffering. How can we judge someone who is suffering or someone’s personality which they can’t control?

For the oppressors – you might be able to judge us and hate us, but control is an illusion, you can’t change what is inevitable and what is natural. Would love to hear anyone’s thoughts!

Thanks for reading, I hope you enjoyed it 🙂

Leaving you with two great songs around these subjects!
The world needs love:
And people need compassion and empathy, anyone could become homeless if they’re unlucky enough:

Accumulating, consuming, debt and freedom

“Sell your crap. Pay your debt. Do what you love.” – An inspiring message, I agree with getting rid of the excess to feel more free and flexible. “What does freedom mean to you?” For me it’s freedom from my own thoughts, mind and job. I don’t feel liberated, I realise it and I aim to change it.

“We’ve bought into the addiction, we’ve been sold a myth, which is: acquiring things in our life and the pursuit of a living environment filled with things is going to grant us security, or happiness. We start to identify with these things, you can tell who’s successful or not etc by the possessions they have. People’s identity shouldn’t be based on their collection of nice stuff, it should be based on their collection of rich experiences.”

“There are thousands and thousands of people out there living lives of quiet, screaming desperation who work long, hard hours, at jobs they hate, to enable them to buy things they don’t need to impress people they don’t like.” – Nigel Marsh

Another quote I love that relates to this addiction/myth us: “Trying to be happy by accumulating possessions is like trying to satisfy hunger by taping sandwiches all over your body.” – George Carlin

This feels especially important to note around times like Christmas. Which for me, is a time for celebration and acquisition of memories and experiences, not more objects I don’t really need.

I’ve started to pay off my debt instead of save, sell stuff I hardly use, and become more aware of my superficial desires and temporary happiness that buying things gives me, and I already feel better. Here’s to freedom.

Discovering your personality

I believe that contentment and true happiness are only possible if you accept and love yourself. The way you feel about yourself effects your mood, your work, your interactions, relationships, and so many aspects of life. I recently accepted parts of myself that I had condemned for years and it set me free in many ways. To understand how I was sabotaging my happiness and why I was so negative, I first had to learn more about myself. I had to become more open to the fact that everyone is different, has different and totally valid opinions and maybe no one knows what they want and or what they’re doing.

I analysed my thoughts, decisions, feelings, actions, dreams and plans, experienced new things, did things I feared to do, read more and took this insightful Carl Jung Personality test. When the results came out, I googled what that all meant and found I could relate to almost all of it, it made me question myself more and become more mindful of my habits/downfalls/good points etc. There’s tons of stuff out there to help you if you’re struggling with self acceptance and finding yourself, I think it’s super important and I would love to help anyone in any way I can with this if they would like.

Here’s a link to the personality test:

http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp