Less is more; the minimalist philosophy.

Many people seem to like a vast choice of everything. For example, things to wear. I can relate to the dopamine hit of new things. Which is fine, but it comes at a cost; the cost of time, energy and money to name a few.

I’m finding that less is more. I used to think the more the better. I used to think more clothes, more choice, more information means more value. But I don’t think that is necessarily true!

For me now, more choice and more information means less value, because it’s too much to process and the real value drowns in the too much. So when you have less clothes, less information, less photographs; you treasure the one’s you have more, they are your absolute favourites and you can actually use them, see them, because they aren’t an overwhelming amount.

I’m very grateful to have the freedom of choice, but I find so much value in being deliberate and intentional with my choices and priorities.

I feel more lightness, more peace, less stress and less overwhelm because of adopting the minimalist philosophy.

For a tiny example, I now have 1 belt and 2 pairs of trainers, which are my favourites. (One’s I actually wear and feel good wearing).

Since being more intentional about all my possessions, and looking at whether I use them or enjoy them or not, I don’t have to fret about what to wear as much, or waste time deciding, or spend money on new things I don’t need or love.

I don’t care if I wear the same things often, that’s really not what matters most to me in life. Less time deciding, more time experiencing. Maybe that’s just me.

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“You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink” – Anon

Meaning: You can present someone with an opportunity, but you cannot force him or her to take advantage of it. I find this old phrase applying to a lot of situations in my life.

If someone is struggling and in pain, and you know exactly what they need to do to stop the pain, you just can’t force them to do it, no matter how nicely you try. And even if you did force them, it wouldn’t last because it wasn’t their idea. (The main idea in the film Inception). It’s like that kids story about the sun and the wind making a bet to take a travelers coat off.

You can’t make anyone do anything, and it feels so much nicer when they decide to do things on their own, making decisions based on their own view of reality in situations. Like staying off the drink, coming with you on a trip or to see a film or band, going to therapy. I wouldn’t enjoy it if I knew they only came because I made them. Suggesting an idea is great, but then it’s up to them what they do with it and you accept and respect them for having different opinions and feelings towards things that you might love.

If you want to get someone to do something, there’s so many different ways to get them to do it. Some of which are much better and healthier for relationships and stress levels. I would start by giving them respect and being honest and genuine and accepting that you can’t control the outcome but you can state your intentions and feelings or thoughts. I guess it’s being a good leader which is a whole different post. But just know that you can lead a person to something that’s great, but you can’t make them see it’s great and take it.

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