Helping strangers.

Mind Fuel Pick-Ups

What do we all do when we read a really good book or see a great film? We lend it to someone or recommend it to someone, who we think would like it or benefit from it. Which is great, passing on good stuff, helping our tribe out.

But what if we expanded our feelings and cared about strangers too? I had the thought of wanting to do this, and I wish there was some sort of community board to add things to, but a lot of people wouldn’t look at that and it would only be in one place. I like the idea of leaving things on buses and benches, for people to pick up if they like the look of it.

So now, after I’ve read a print out, flyer or poster, instead of putting it in recycling, is put them around my environment, so that strangers can benefit from them too.

Some people might consider this littering, but I don’t because the idea is that someone will take it – that is the intention of the post-it saying ‘take me’ on each one.

It’s valuable information that I’ve gotten something from, and I want to share with fellow humans, in the hope they will get something from it to. And I’d like to believe that fate will determine who will pick it up, and maybe it will enter someone’s life when they need it or are ready for it.

So we’re calling them Mind Fuel Pick-up’s, and we will keep doing it. We have much compassion for our fellow humans. We all want to be happy. Hopefully this action goes towards improving people’s minds, lives, and society, even just a little bit. Even just to know that strangers care about them, could maybe improve their day. Imagine if more people did this…

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Acceptance = liberation

Sorry there’s been a lack of fuel from me recently, but now I’ve quit my job I’ll have more time to dedicate to this blog that I love so much!


“If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have 3 options: 1. Remove yourself from the situation, 2. Change it or 3. Accept it totally.” – Michael Singer

I often read/hear that practicing gratitude will put you in good stead for a healthy wellbeing and state of mind.

I’ve tried to do this many times. I think about what I’m grateful for and write it down, and, at the time, I don’t necessarily feel happier for doing so. But, I have felt grateful out of nowhere before; so practicing can only be a good thing. On days that I’m really, really low, when I have no motivation or energy, and where anything but sleeping is too much effort, I find it really hard to practice gratitude.

I realised that maybe it might help me to practice acceptance first: acceptance of my current situation, personality, life, problems, pain and feelings, acceptance of my depression, that I feel like shit right now, that my back is in pain and has been for 5 years, acceptance of the fact I have no motivation or inspiration right now.

I first realised the power of acceptance when shivering in the cold, waiting for the bus. I thought ‘just accept the cold, accept it….it’s okay go on, accept it’, then all of a sudden, I released my fight against the cold and I relaxed and felt a bit warmer for a while. So I’m trying to practice that with more aspects of my life.

I have a constant inner conflict inside that takes a lot of energy, which means I end up unhappy and distracted a lot of the time. In fighting my pain and suffering I’m trying to control one part of myself with another part. I want to feel happy and get rid of these bad feelings, and if fighting it doesn’t work (which it never does) I want to run away and escape myself entirely.

But in rejecting/bullying myself this way, it’s like saying to myself: “Stop feeling down, be happy for god’s sake, what’s wrong with you? There’s no reason you should feel depressed, I wish I wasn’t you and I was someone else, someone happier, I wish I had someone else’s life, not this one.”

If I accept my low feelings, stop fighting them and berating myself, accept that I’m the product of my genes and upbringing, and that I can’t help being depressed, I let go of the grip my mind has on itself and life becomes easier to deal with. I feel more compassion for myself, and feel more liberated and validated.

I think to some people, acceptance seems like giving up, giving in, and the other person or situation has won. But if it’s something you can literally do nothing about, and not accepting it causes you more pain, then maybe accepting it would be a healthier/happier choice for you.

Things to practice fuelling your mind with (easier when you have the mental energy to do it):

Mindfulness (Be mindful of unhelpful thinking styles – more on that in another post).
Acceptance (When you feel down or upset instead of feeling bad and fighting the feeling, try accepting that you feel low, allow yourself space and time to feel how you feel, validate yourself, it’s okay to feel shit right now. If that’s too hard, first try to accept the cold and see if you feel warmer even for a few seconds).
Gratitude (Trying to notice people and things in your life that you’re grateful for regularly, even the smallest of things).

I would love to know if this helps anyone else, try it out and let me know? You can email me at mindfuelstuff@gmail.com


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The oppressed, the underdogs, the misfits

A side effect or a price that we pay for having this self awareness, a higher consciousness is we have the ability to judge, bully and oppress others of our kind. I really think it’s a shame and small minded to do so. You would never see a tiger oppress a dog because it was different, it wouldn’t care at all if the dog was gay, female, mentally ill or a drug addict.

But us humans can be really mean, when really everyone wants to just belong, be accepted, appreciated and loved right?

Imagine if we could extend our empathy not just to our family and friends but to all humans and animals? It’s hard to live on this planet as it is. Empowering instead of judging…

“People can only live a happy life if they can live the way their brain has been programmed, and the state should accept that, and guarantee them the freedom to live that way so long as they don’t harm others. You should have the freedom to live as a homosexual, a transsexual, a heterosexual, and be protected by the state.” – Dick Swaab

We should stop obsessing so much about the differences and look at the similarities between us all.

Where oppression needs more empathy, compassion and understanding:

– Sexuality (gays, lesbians, bi-sexuals, a-sexuals, pan-sexuals…)
– Gender (male, female, transexual, transvestite, androgynus…)
– Race
– Drug addiction/abuse – legal and illegal
– Elderly
– Disabled
– Mentally ill
– Introverts
– Religious and non-religious types
– People who don’t belong in the justice system
– Honest people on the dole or benefits

– Did I miss any?

Anything that doesn’t fit the majority opinion of the population in at least western societies, gets cast out as weird and wrong and the rest are selected to be celebrated and pushed onto others. Is that more about them than us? – Just look at the way some straight people see gay people getting married as weakening the meaning of traditional marriage etc. Their identities and world views are tied to these outside things so tightly that for someone to come along and be different to that, makes them feel more insecure and challenges their identity.

Philip Seymour Hoffman has just died from a drug overdose, along with many other celebrities and people no one knows. Anyone can become addicted to drugs, you just have to have them available and have an addictive personality, or have lots of pain and suffering. How can we judge someone who is suffering or someone’s personality which they can’t control?

For the oppressors – you might be able to judge us and hate us, but control is an illusion, you can’t change what is inevitable and what is natural. Would love to hear anyone’s thoughts!

Thanks for reading, I hope you enjoyed it 🙂

Leaving you with two great songs around these subjects!
The world needs love:
And people need compassion and empathy, anyone could become homeless if they’re unlucky enough: