One big way we mess our kids up

“We’ve spent lifetimes thinking about our problems, but so little time actually shining the light of awareness on what is actually happening.” – Joey Lott

In my opinion and from what I have learned, one big way people can and do mess their kids up, is by not being aware of and integrating their own shadow parts of themselves (unwanted & rejected parts of self) and then they can project whatever issue they might have, big or small onto their kids, and the kids grow up and do the same to their kids and it perpetuates.

All is not lost though, because at any time, anyone can do this inner work, although hard, it’s possible. And we can undo our conditioning and integrate our shadow parts, not only for the wellbeing of kids, but for the wellbeing of ourselves and every single person we have relationships with/interact with.

We don’t have to do anything, we can do what we want, but if people are suffering, I believe this is important work.

Carl Jung’s, Jordan Peterson’s and Joey Lott’s work on this is a God send.

For anyone suffering with problems for a long time that they have never found a way to fix them; problems like depression, anxiety, eating disorders, addiction, obsessions etc. Joey Lott has an incredible online course that I can personally vouch for, that you can check out here. (Hopefully it’s still open to join, if not you can sign up to his email and receive updates of when it will next be open) Obviously this isn’t the only way, and there’s lots of good help out there. But this is one that I have found to be very effective and really get to the root of my problems.

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Accumulating, consuming, debt and freedom

“Sell your crap. Pay your debt. Do what you love.” – An inspiring message, I agree with getting rid of the excess to feel more free and flexible. “What does freedom mean to you?” For me it’s freedom from my own thoughts, mind and job. I don’t feel liberated, I realise it and I aim to change it.

“We’ve bought into the addiction, we’ve been sold a myth, which is: acquiring things in our life and the pursuit of a living environment filled with things is going to grant us security, or happiness. We start to identify with these things, you can tell who’s successful or not etc by the possessions they have. People’s identity shouldn’t be based on their collection of nice stuff, it should be based on their collection of rich experiences.”

“There are thousands and thousands of people out there living lives of quiet, screaming desperation who work long, hard hours, at jobs they hate, to enable them to buy things they don’t need to impress people they don’t like.” – Nigel Marsh

Another quote I love that relates to this addiction/myth us: “Trying to be happy by accumulating possessions is like trying to satisfy hunger by taping sandwiches all over your body.” – George Carlin

This feels especially important to note around times like Christmas. Which for me, is a time for celebration and acquisition of memories and experiences, not more objects I don’t really need.

I’ve started to pay off my debt instead of save, sell stuff I hardly use, and become more aware of my superficial desires and temporary happiness that buying things gives me, and I already feel better. Here’s to freedom.