I don’t know what it’s like to be you, you don’t know what it’s like to be me.

There’s so much I don’t understand.

I don’t understand the mindset you’d have to be in to want a baby. Or the mind set you’d need to have, to kill someone or go to a prostitute, or to want to jump out of a plane for extreme sport, or what it’s like to be schizophrenic, or be on LSD, or be a rock star, a nurse, or to have been a Jew in Nazi Germany. I have no idea what it feels like to be homeless, an extrovert, a man, black, old, disabled, and it goes on for infinity.

We often all get misunderstood and judged at some point, whether it’s to do with: sexuality, race, creed, gender, disability, elderly, mental illness, homelessness, survivors of war/other traumatic events, soldiers of war, prisoners, sex workers, introverts, HSP’s (highly sensitive people), shy people, INFJ’s (the rarest personality, 1% of population).

We often hear about how various groups of people are oppressed, and that some of these groups are more oppressed than others. This is sometimes called the ‘oppression olympics’. But how can we compare and measure oppression? The labels of experience are endless and we’re all totally unique in the way we view our world, interpret it, and experience it.

There are as many ways of viewing the world as there are people. We can sometimes relate to one another, but we can’t KNOW what it’s like to be a particular person, unless you are that person. And we can’t KNOW what it’s like to have a particular experience, until you experience it yourself. Even then, you’ll experience it through YOUR mind, not anyone else’s, so it’s interpreted in a unique way. 

Trying to imagine what others experience can help you find compassion and empathy for people. Judgement, on the other hand, could lead to discrimination, division, even hate and war. In my opinion.

Stuff to remember:

  • Don’t judge what you don’t understand. (Easy to say it, hard to live it.)
  • Everyone is unique.
  • Everyone struggles throughout their life.
  • Comparison is the thief of joy.
  • You can’t compare experiences or points of view.
  • No one can read your mind.

Hey, I could be wrong, just my thoughts.

 


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Helping strangers.

Mind Fuel Pick-Ups

What do we all do when we read a really good book or see a great film? We lend it to someone or recommend it to someone, who we think would like it or benefit from it. Which is great, passing on good stuff, helping our tribe out.

But what if we expanded our feelings and cared about strangers too? I had the thought of wanting to do this, and I wish there was some sort of community board to add things to, but a lot of people wouldn’t look at that and it would only be in one place. I like the idea of leaving things on buses and benches, for people to pick up if they like the look of it.

So now, after I’ve read a print out, flyer or poster, instead of putting it in recycling, is put them around my environment, so that strangers can benefit from them too.

Some people might consider this littering, but I don’t because the idea is that someone will take it – that is the intention of the post-it saying ‘take me’ on each one.

It’s valuable information that I’ve gotten something from, and I want to share with fellow humans, in the hope they will get something from it to. And I’d like to believe that fate will determine who will pick it up, and maybe it will enter someone’s life when they need it or are ready for it.

So we’re calling them Mind Fuel Pick-up’s, and we will keep doing it. We have much compassion for our fellow humans. We all want to be happy. Hopefully this action goes towards improving people’s minds, lives, and society, even just a little bit. Even just to know that strangers care about them, could maybe improve their day. Imagine if more people did this…

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Schools are pumping out half-made humans.

It seems to me that the education system is too focused on making a living rather than making a life. There’s always exceptions of course, but generally speaking in at least the standard UK curriculum, schools aren’t incentivised at all to provide education to create well-rounded, happy, healthy, decent human beings. It’s not a priority. What is a priority for them seems to be producing employable consumers.

I don’t think this is the fault of the schools, they are answerable to the government. They HAVE to deliver the required curriculum, or they get backlisted. The government represents us, so it seems within our rights to get the kind of schools we want. The government obviously has it’s own agenda. I don’t understand how they don’t see the following list as super important and include it in the curriculum.

Where will people learn about things such as:

– Self-expression/finding out who you are
– Personal finance (for example student loans and lifetime debt!)
– Mental health
– How mental health and physical health are connected
– How to be a good parent
– How to raise a dog
– How to deal with emotions
– Mindfulness and meditation
– Diet and nutrition
– Critical thinking
– Life fulfilment
– Stress management
– How to run a house
– Relationship communication
– Race issues, gender issues, sexuality
– The importance of play and relaxation
– The importance of time in nature
– The importance of work/life balance
– Spirituality
– Community and cooperation
– Sustainability

Where can we learn this stuff as children if not schools? You can’t rely on parents to teach all this stuff.

It’s all essential stuff. Without the knowledge of these things, decades can be spent trying to correct everything and cause much pain and suffering. It pisses me off.

Maths, science and english are obviously really important, but they won’t help you if you have depression because you didn’t learn about emotional regulation and the importance of work/life balance! No wonder most people are unhappy and dissatisfied with life. (That’s my personal observation and opinion).

Children will grow up to be a part of society, so why doesn’t society give them all the tools they need to be happy, healthy and well-rounded? It’s mutually beneficial to educate them fully so they’re better citizens and better people.

Pupils themselves are pushing for ‘life skills’ to be taught in schools, but there’s more campaigning to be done before it’s in all schools. Holland are ahead of us in lot’s of ways, including teaching mindfulness in schools. Let’s get schools to help make whole humans, not just half one’s! Maybe schools can acquire curriculums from organisations like The Representation Project. 

I think this stuff is worth questioning and thinking about. You know my thoughts. What are yours?

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My Bloggers Sunshine Award nomination

One of my favourite bloggers Terrance Brown nominated me for his Sunshine award and I’m thrilled.

I’ve never heard of this before but it’s something bloggers give to other bloggers who they admire and appreciate the work of.

The rules:
 According to the rules, a nominee should:

• Thank the person who nominated you.
• Answer the questions from the person who nominated you.
• Nominate other bloggers for the Sunshine Award.
• Write the same number of questions for the bloggers you nominated as you received with your nomination.
• Notify the bloggers you have nominated.

Terence’s questions with my answers:

  1. What inspires you to be the person you see in the mirror?

Hmm. I want to live an authentic life and I enjoy being honest and deep and I want to live in accordance with my values and help change society and the world for the better. Also I’m curious as hell and love getting to the core route of problems. Did I answer that right?

2. What phrase or quote do you tell yourself when you’re in need of a self-peptalk?

If I remember, I love ‘This is it” to remind me that life is right now in this moment, and not in my head in the future or past. And I use the question “is this helpful?” When I’m thinking negatively.

3. What are you most grateful for?

I need to practice gratefulness more. As you know, I have depression and it’s very hard to feel grateful when I feel hopeless and empty. But today I’m having quite a good day and I’m grateful for chocolate in times of PMS and grateful for my boyfriends rolling ability.

4. What is your favourite post on your blog, and why? (Be sure to include a link)

My favourite is Acceptance = liberation (https://mindfuelstuff.wordpress.com/2015/01/04/acceptance-liberation).  Acceptance is something I feel is insanely important for better mental health and less suffering, letting go of things you can’t change. Accepting who I am, my depression, my pain, my level of drumming ability, my level of photography ability. It’s about self compassion and I’m still trying and learning to do this. I think everyone would be better off if they were more self-compassionate and accepting of things they can’t change. Accepting it doesn’t mean I won’t improve my skills or situation, it just means I agree that this is here and it is what it is at this moment in time and not to fight the fact it’s here which doesn’t help anyone and just makes me suffer.  So I liked getting my thoughts across to people in this article.

5. What awesome lifehack have you discovered recently that has made you more productive?

This is funny because being too productive is one factor that I believe lead to my depression. I’ve had to learn to slow down a lot and learn to listen to my feelings and know my limits. I was acting as an achievement machine – when really I was human all along. Whoops. Getting out of bed and getting shower can be big achievements for me on bad days.

6. If you could gain any superpower you wish, which would it be and why?

I really like the idea of being able to fly, but I’d probably be too scared to ever use the power! (what if I fall out of the sky? etc) Lol

My questions to my nominees:

1. Was there anything in particular that inspired you to start your blog?
2. What’s one of your favourite quotes at the moment?
3. What 1 or 2 books have impacted your mind positively? 
4. What are you currently learning about or would like to learn about?
5. What do you like to do for fun?
6. Do you think having a consciousness can be a blessing and a curse?

My nominated blogs:

Terrance Brown: http://helpgrowchange.com/

Advanced life skills: http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/

Always well within: http://alwayswellwithin.com/

How I landed in depression by ignoring all the warning signs.

There were at least four warning signs in my life, that unbeknownst to me, were signalling depression on the horizon. If only I could have stopped to reflect on how I was feeling at the time, and sought help before things got really bad. But I didn’t listen to how I was feeling at all, and I didn’t slow down.

This lead to a breakdown/quarter life crisis, meltdowns, chronic back pain, an anxiety disorder, burn out and finally depression. It’s ironic – I never listened to how I felt and now I’ve lost the ability to feel.

For me, I believe this is how it went down:

Warning sign 1: Stress > Warning sign 2: Chronic stress > Warning sign 3: Anxiety > Warning sign 4: Burnout > Last stop: Depression

If you can relate to any of these, I don’t need to tell you the awful effects any of them have on your mental & physical health, wellbeing, relationships, work and life in general.

I’ve learnt lots about myself going through all these things, but I don’t want anyone else to end up with depression if I can help it. So i’m writing this blog post in the hopes I can help you or someone you know, become aware of the warning signs you have, and to seek help, before things get worse.

I think that with either chronic stress, an anxiety disorder, burnout or depression: your brain is maybe telling you that something seriously needs to change in your life-style, situation, or thinking habits. Maybe you’ve been strong for too long.

For me, my life wasn’t balanced at all. I placed no value on healing, play or rest. It was like 24/7 work/achievement/productivity for most of my life. And my thinking habits were unhealthy and unhelpful. I would constantly over-analyse and over-think. My personality was always a worrier, conscientious, highly sensitive, introvert, deep thinker, strong sense of responsibility, inability to set limits, excessively ambitious, high standards and a perfectionist, with a real compulsion to achieve my high standards and goals.

All of those attributes combined, make an outcome like burnout and depression seem pretty predictable, in hindsight.

You can arrive at depression from many different routes, (trauma, genetics, social or environmental factors). For me, it started with simple stress, (and my innate inability to cope with it).

I believe if I noticed and dealt with any of the warning signs, I could have avoided depression. So watch out for those signs of yours! Best of luck on your journey.

In summary:

– Listen and pay attention to how you feel
– Be aware of your personal limits
– Schedule time to relax and play
– Identify warning signs
– Identify causes
– Identify triggers
– Talk to someone, especially GP
– Minimise triggers

By Annie Charnley.

#DepressionAwareness


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What if Game of Thrones was a metaphor for today’s world?

In Game of Thrones, the different houses fight each other to get the throne, but instead they could be banding together to fight a much bigger threat: the white walkers. I think we’re in a similar situation. We have all the political parties fighting for a seat in power and countries fighting each other for resources. But we could be banding together to fight a bigger threat: the planet dying.

Our lives are tied to the well being of our planet, we depend on water, forests, deserts, oceans, fishing, breeding, farming. But instead we take all it has to give us and more, we don’t live in harmony with it.

This video shows how man has impacted the environment:

Capitalism has gone too far. Maybe money is the root of all evil? Russell Brand points out: either ditch capitalism and save the planet or ditch the planet and save capitalism.

I’m sick of the people in power not looking at the wider context. Caring more about money and staying in power than people and the planet.

These are some ideas I have about our dying planet:

Causes:
– Overpopulation
– Capitalism
– Wars

Direct results:
– Human and animal deaths
– Deforestation
– Fracking
– Pollution
– Climate change
– Housing shortage
– Job shortage

Indirect results:
– Terrorism
– Rioting
– Protesting
– Starvation
– Low quality of life
– Suicide

It’s not looking good for us all and future generations. We need to stop having wars, stop climate change, use renewable energy, make products using bio-degradable packaging, stop fracking and deforestation. We’re all going to die anyway, everything we attain is borrowed, just like our time here, let’s band together as humans and fight to save the planet, and explore space together.


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Don’t ignore the ideology and attitude of the party you’re voting for: Promises can be broken.

Don’t focus so much on the policies that you ignore the ideology and attitude of the party you’re voting for. Once people are in power, policies can change and promises can be broken. But if you trust that the leader cares more about doing what’s right than saving face, I think that’s worth taking into account.

I’d love a psychologist to psychoanalyse all the political party leaders, because they all have certain personalities, body languages, tones, vibes and attitudes, that lead me to either respect them or distrust them and their whole ideology/party.

I wish I could vote for Nicola Sturgeon, she seems strong, intelligent, compassionate, fair and fearless. I like her vibe and attitude. Natalie Bennett seems sincere and prioritises the planet and humankind, which is pretty important!

Who or which party is in line with your values?

If you’re not sure who to vote for you can watch the BBC live debate or visit this website where Greenpeace have outlined what they think is the worst and best parts of all the parties manifestos.

Don’t forget to vote on May 7th.