The path of personal transformation.

This is a brilliant model / map for personal transformation. Written by Advanced Life Skills blog The 7 stages of personal change. 1) Awareness. The initial motivation for change starts with a sense that something is no longer working as well as it once did. This awareness can be extremely subtle at first. Maybe you feel uncomfortable [...]

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The searching, is the suffering.

“Any time you are trying to get out of suffering, that is suffering.” - Lisa Cairns The searching for something else, other than this right now. Something over there, something better, is what causes us to suffer, in my opinion. The searching is a lie, a mirage. It's a distraction from what is already here. It makes [...]

The Hero’s Journey; How to make living in Hell more tolerable.

Suffering is all relative. There's many different types of Hell. It is my belief, that the journey into Hell, through Hell and out the other end of Hell, is The Hero's Journey. For me, for the past 3 years, I haven't been working or living really, due to anxiety, severe depression and burnout. Just surviving, [...]

Wishing to be ‘normal’

There's personality traits that I used to want to have more than anything, (like: extraversion, sociable, fun-loving, care-free, laid-back, out-going). I was very jealous of the people who had these traits, because I was so insecure about my traits. That insecurity gets triggered every time I see or meet someone with those traits I desired. [...]

Are you hypnotised by thoughts?

How much of your time are you in thought? For me it has been 100% of my conscious time. I had no idea it was possible to be not in thought, until recently. I've always found myself mesmerised and hypnotised by thoughts, often without realising it. There's a lot of self help out there for [...]

Don’t let thoughts make you their bitch.

Just because thoughts appear in our awareness, it doesn't mean we have to do what they say. We don't have to listen to thoughts, or engage with them or believe them. We can instead just see them happen, not judge them, not try to get away from them, or fight them, and not follow them [...]

Using dream symbolism to guide us in our lives.

In my view, dreams can often have very powerful and meaningful symbolic messages that can inform us about what's going on inside us and in our lives. But most people I know don't seem to realise this. We can learn about ourselves and grow, thanks to these messages (from our subconscious?). Everything in those kinds [...]

Less is more; the minimalist philosophy.

Many people seem to like a vast choice of everything. For example, things to wear. I can relate to the dopamine hit of new things. Which is fine, but it comes at a cost; the cost of time, energy and money to name a few. I'm finding that less is more. I used to think [...]

One big way we seem to mess our kids up.

In my opinion, one big way people can and do, mess their kids up, is by not being aware of and integrating their own shadow parts of themselves. Shadow parts of ourselves, are the parts of us we reject, and don’t want. It could be anything, including negative feelings we don’t want like anger, sadness [...]

Helping strangers.

What do we all do when we read a really good book or see a great film? We lend it to someone or recommend it to someone, who we think would like it or benefit from it. Which is great, passing on good stuff, helping our tribe out. But what if we expanded our feelings [...]