Wishing to be ‘normal’

There's personality traits that I used to want to have more than anything, (like: extraversion, sociable, fun-loving, care-free, laid-back, out-going). I was very jealous of the people who had these traits, because I was so insecure about my traits. That insecurity gets triggered every time I see or meet someone with those traits I desired. [...]

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Are you hypnotised by thoughts?

I find myself mesmerised and hypnotised by thoughts, all the time, often without realising it. It seems many people do, and seek out ways to help themselves. With self help articles, videos, and books about calming the over-thinking brain, how to relax without your thoughts bothering you and ways to distract you from your thoughts. [...]

Don’t let thoughts make you their bitch.

Just because thoughts appear in our awareness, it doesn't mean we have to do what they say. We don't have to listen to thoughts, or engage with them or believe them. We can instead just see them happen, not judge them, not try to get away from them, or fight them, and not follow them [...]

Dreams can teach us about ourselves

In my view, dreams can often have very powerful and meaningful symbolic messages that can inform us about what's going on inside us and in our lives. But most people I know don't seem to realise this. We can learn about ourselves and grow, thanks to these messages (from our subconscious?). Everything in those kinds [...]

Less is more; the minimalist philosophy.

Many people seem to like a vast choice of everything. For example, things to wear. I can relate to the dopamine hit of new things. Which is fine, but it comes at a cost; the cost of time, energy and money to name a few. I'm finding that less is more. I used to think [...]

One big way we mess our kids up

"We've spent lifetimes thinking about our problems, but so little time actually shining the light of awareness on what is actually happening." - Joey Lott In my opinion and from what I have learned, one big way people can and do mess their kids up, is by not being aware of and integrating their own [...]

Helping strangers.

What do we all do when we read a really good book or see a great film? We lend it to someone or recommend it to someone, who we think would like it or benefit from it. Which is great, passing on good stuff, helping our tribe out. But what if we expanded our feelings [...]

Schools are pumping out half-made humans.

It seems to me that the education system is too focused on making a living rather than making a life. There’s always exceptions of course, but generally speaking in at least the standard UK curriculum, schools aren’t incentivised at all to provide education to create well-rounded, happy, healthy, decent human beings. It’s not a priority. [...]

My Bloggers Sunshine Award nomination

One of my favourite bloggers Terrance Brown nominated me for his Sunshine award and I’m thrilled. I’ve never heard of this before but it’s something bloggers give to other bloggers who they admire and appreciate the work of. The rules:
 According to the rules, a nominee should: • Thank the person who nominated you. • [...]

How I landed in depression by ignoring all the warning signs.

There were at least four warning signs in my life, that unbeknownst to me, were signalling depression on the horizon. If only I could have stopped to reflect on how I was feeling at the time, and sought help before things got really bad. But I didn’t listen to how I was feeling at all, [...]