Wishing to be ‘normal’

There's personality traits that I used to want to have more than anything, (like: extraversion, sociable, fun-loving, care-free, laid-back, out-going). I was very jealous of the people who had these traits, because I was so insecure about my traits. That insecurity gets triggered every time I see or meet someone with those traits I desired. [...]

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Are you hypnotised by thoughts?

I find myself mesmerised and hypnotised by thoughts, all the time, often without realising it. It seems many people do, and seek out ways to help themselves. With self help articles, videos, and books about calming the over-thinking brain, how to relax without your thoughts bothering you and ways to distract you from your thoughts. [...]

Don’t let thoughts make you their bitch.

Just because thoughts appear in our awareness, it doesn't mean we have to do what they say. We don't have to listen to thoughts, or engage with them or believe them. We can instead just see them happen, not judge them, not try to get away from them, or fight them, and not follow them [...]

Dreams can teach us about ourselves

In my view, dreams can often have very powerful and meaningful symbolic messages that can inform us about what's going on inside us and in our lives. But most people I know don't seem to realise this. We can learn about ourselves and grow, thanks to these messages (from our subconscious?). Everything in those kinds [...]

A prison created by thoughts.

Being attached and identified with our thoughts and the thinker can create a prison (which is an illusion), and and it can be torture to live from that place; you are not really living right now. You're living in the past and future. There is no peace there. It is constant grasping and striving. It [...]

Meditation and ‘enlightenment’ are not special.

There is this picture of what meditation looks like and what ‘enlightenment’ looks like. And there's a tendency for many of us to believe that that is it, and anything else isn’t it. It can make me feel like it's not for us, and that only certain people get it, or see it, who are [...]

Less is more; the minimalist philosophy.

Many people seem to like a vast choice of everything. For example, things to wear. I can relate to the dopamine hit of new things. Which is fine, but it comes at a cost; the cost of time, energy and money to name a few. I'm finding that less is more. I used to think [...]

One big way we mess our kids up

"We've spent lifetimes thinking about our problems, but so little time actually shining the light of awareness on what is actually happening." - Joey Lott In my opinion and from what I have learned, one big way people can and do mess their kids up, is by not being aware of and integrating their own [...]

I don’t know what it’s like to be you, you don’t know what it’s like to be me.

There's so much I don't understand. I don't understand the mindset you'd have to be in to want a baby. Or the mind set you'd need to have, to kill someone or go to a prostitute, or to want to jump out of a plane for extreme sport, or what it's like to be schizophrenic, [...]

Helping strangers.

What do we all do when we read a really good book or see a great film? We lend it to someone or recommend it to someone, who we think would like it or benefit from it. Which is great, passing on good stuff, helping our tribe out. But what if we expanded our feelings [...]