“The natural ups and downs of life can either generate personal growth or create personal fears. Which of these dominates is completely dependent on how we view change. Change can either be viewed as exciting, or frightening, but regardless of how we view it, we must all face the fact that change is the very nature of life. If you have a lot of fear, you won’t like change, you will try to create a world around you that is predictable, controllable and definable, you’ll try to create a world that doesn’t stimulate your fears. Fear doesn’t want to feel itself, it’s actually afraid of itself. It’s an object, a tangible thing. Because people don’t deal with fear objectively, they don’t understand it, they end up keeping their fear and trying to prevent things from happening which stimulate it. Wherever you are, be there totally. If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have 3 options: 1. Remove yourself from the situation, 2. Change it or 3. Accept it totally” – Michael Singer (Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself)
The 3 most unhappy people I know are also very controlling and fearful. Along with my personal experience I found this quote too inspiring not to share. I’m learning there’s pretty much nothing that I can control in life, and this lessens stress dramatically. Which I think is another way of saying I’m getting better at accepting change. A brilliant realisation, that I hope more people can make!
“What we don’t know tends to scare us, and change creates a lot of things we don’t know. As a result, we tend to act pretty irrationally to try and prevent change, often without realizing it, and make our lives unnecessarily problematic.” – From an excellent blog post about change by Life Hacker: http://lifehacker.com/5982622/why-youre-so-afraid-of-change-and-what-you-can-do-about-it/all
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