There is this picture of what meditation looks like and what ‘enlightenment’ looks like.
And there’s a tendency for many of us to believe that that is it, and anything else isn’t it.
It can make me feel like it’s not for us, and that only certain people get it, or see it, who are special. But I don’t think that’s true at all.
To me, meditation looks like someone sitting crossed legged with eyes closed, hands with palms resting on legs, sitting on top a mountain or temple, with Eastern traditional clothes on. This image is understandable because meditation came from Eastern cultures, but all that is, it’s tradition. It’s made up by humans and I think we can be mislead by it, (because of our minds interpretations).
That image isn’t all meditation is.
You can meditate while you’re doing absolutely anything, while you’re washing up, taking out the bins, wiping your baby’s arse.
What you are doing has no bearing on whether you can meditate or not. You don’t need anything to meditate except a mind. You don’t need the ‘right’ place, the ‘right’ cushion, the ‘right’ clothes.
But at the same time, of course sitting in a quiet place to meditate, can be helpful.
I just don’t want that image described above to put anyone off meditating, it’s not that image, the image isn’t it. What’s going on inside is where it is.
The image of ‘enlightenment’ can also be very misleading.
To me, the image of ‘enlightenment’ is an old guy with a long grey beard, who wears beads and Eastern loose robe like clothing.
And then the mind can seem to assume that if you don’t look like that, then you’re not as enlightened or wise as the people that do look like that.
Again, in a way, this is bollocks, it’s just tradition, it has absolutely nothing to do with actual ‘enlightenment’.
Any one could be ‘enlightened’, and no one else could tell they were, because it’s an internal thing.
This is where fake guru’s come into it. If they look the part, people can often assume they are the real deal, and that they have something special that you don’t. And follow them and hang onto their every word. This situation can get abusive. Many cults do the same thing. There’s a great documentary about fake gurus called Kumare.
You could be a welder who has tattoos and swears a lot and see the truth of who you are.
In reality the way you look externally to other people, has absolutely nothing to do with what’s going on inside you. (As we know with people who are depressed and suicidal). There could be millions of people who see the truth of who they are, but you wouldn’t know to look at them. It’s an internal shift in the way you view everything.
Tradition is fine, but it’s not in the tradition. It’s in us, all the time, always has been, always will be.
You don’t need to do anything to see what you really are.The thing that is there before, during and after all thoughts, feelings and sensations. The thing that is aware of whatever is happening. You don’t need the ‘right’ clothes, the ‘right’ lifestyle, the ‘right’ hair style etc.
How I understand it, you just need a mind, and to drop your attachment to all conceptual thought. To drop the striving, searching and control you have and take a step out of your own way.
I don’t want anyone to be put off or mislead by these images, or by the word ‘enlightenment’.
The word makes it sound so special too. And in a way it is, but in a way it’s the most simple, immediate, ordinary thing there is, so ordinary, we miss it. The word ‘enlightenment’, also makes it sound like a thing to get that we don’t have already.
I think this is just what happens when the mind tries to interpret and grasp this pointing using words to something real in our direct experience. It’s quite innocent and understandable. But it is getting in our own way of seeing the reality of what’s happening.
In my humble opinion, this is the way we evolved, to think of ourselves as a self. It’s very beneficial to survival. But it’s not the reality of who we are and it causes a lot of suffering psychologically and emotionally.
The way I see it, we are all already born ‘enlightened’, it is what being is, what awareness is.
I believe we grow up forgetting who we really are, once the mind/self system kicks online, and we can start to take ourselves to be our thought systems, our bodies, our feelings, etc.
It’s not special; it’s completely ordinary.